Ever come a cross a wonderful piece of writing that eloquently describes who you are in ways you couldn’t think to do it yourself?
DARN IT Well, that’s exactly what happened when I came across, ” Don’t date a girl who travels.” It , very clearly, covered the quintessential issues I have in dating relationships, except I would add “Don’t date a girl who travels or loves adventures”
I have pasted the article below with the credits following it. In purple are my comments as you read (of course you can ignore it, no way for me to know that). However, if you so easily relate to this – well then, we are a kindred souls my friend! Bienvenue!
She’s the one with the messy unkempt hair colored by the sun. Her skin is now far from fair like it once was. Not even sun kissed. It’s burnt with multiple tan lines, wounds and bites here and there. But for every flaw on her skin, she has an interesting story to tell. (<– This ain’t me, let’s proceed to the relate-ble parts. Who am I kidding, tan lines? PLEASE!)
Don’t date a girl who travels. She is hard to please. The usual dinner-movie date at the mall will suck the life out of her (It sure will, my least favorite idea of a “date” is exactly that). Her soul craves for new experiences and adventures (FEED ME). She will be unimpressed with your new car and your expensive watch. She would rather climb a rock or jump out of an airplane than hear you brag about it. ( I live for adventures , but with caution and reason. I love hiking, sky-diving is on my bucket list)
Don’t date a girl who travels because she will bug you to book a flight every time there’s an airline seat sale (Ask M about this, lol). She wont party at Republiq. And she will never pay over $100 for Avicii because she knows that one weekend of clubbing is equivalent to one week somewhere far more exciting. ( Prerrrttttyyy much)
Chances are, she can’t hold a steady job.( I average two/three jobs per year. Not good by many standards but I get drained! I feel like life is being sucked out of me when I can’t really put a genuine and real input in and see it flourish, ugh work politics!!) Or she’s probably daydreaming about quitting. She doesn’t want to keep working her ass off for someone else’s dream (NOPE). She has her own and is working towards it. She is a freelancer. She makes money from designing, writing, photography or something that requires creativity and imagination. Don’t waste her time complaining about your boring job.( Freelancing is me ; I do hair, I blog, I have a cook book that I need to publish, I sew and reconstruct outfits, I write poetry, I make jewelry, I love cooking and I love graphic design and photography … if it needs creating, please say my name! Cues to Destiny’s child song: ‘ Say my name, say my name…’)
Don’t date a girl who travels. She might have wasted her college degree and switched careers entirely (Switch careers, possibly, but my degree is never a waste to me. I studied a subject that fascinates me, and a subject that’s essential to human interaction. Whether I use it for work or not, I use it in my daily and personal life.). She is now a dive instructor or a yoga teacher. She’s not sure when the next paycheck is coming ( Chiiilllddd she sure isn’t. Sucks that this wonderful education – B.A in Communications – should result into an every two weeks check in a cubicle somewhere – lifeless, SMDH). But she doesn’t work like a robot all day, she goes out and takes what life has to offer and challenges you to do the same.
Don’t date a girl who travels for she has chosen a life of uncertainty. She doesn’t have a plan or a permanent address. She goes with the flow and follows her heart. She dances to the beat of her own drum. She doesn’t wear a watch. Her days are ruled by the sun and the moon. When the waves are calling, life stops and she will be oblivious to everything else for a moment. But she has learned that the most important thing in life isn’t surfing. <— I thought it was a phase this uncertainty thing, but maybe I just have a heart of a wanderer and I’m being re-introduced to my self? **Bites nails** WHO AM I??
Don’t date a girl who travels as she tends to speak her mind. She will never try to impress your parents or friends. She knows respect, but isn’t afraid to hold a debate about global issues or social responsibility.
She will never need you. She knows how to pitch a tent and screw her own fins without your help. She cooks well and doesn’t need you to pay for her meals. She is too independent and won’t care whether you travel with her or not. She will forget to check in with you when she arrives at her destination. She’s busy living in the present. She talks to strangers. She will meet many interesting, like-minded people from around the world who share her passion and dreams. She will be bored with you.
Not liking the negative tone of not ever needing anyone, that is not me. I love togetherness – well with the right crew that is. I will say, if no one wants to take an adventure with me, I don’t wait around or get upset, I enjoy doing it just as much solo or with a companion. When it comes to strangers, I do enjoy talking to strangers, it’s like a fetish ya’ll, lol! My favorite thing about talking to strangers is they know no one that you know, you can pretty much be as open as you want to be.They have the most unbiased opinion! I need creativity, uniqueness, mentally and physically challenging activities or yes, pretty much, I will be bored by a guy! There’s, usually, an uncensored, too-honest sort of a discussion about how bored I am before I quit, so….)
So never date a girl who travels unless you can keep up with her. And if you unintentionally fall in love with one, don’t you dare keep her. Let her go.
If you fall in love with me, show me how you can keep up, where we can meet half way – I don’t wanna be selfish and make another feel inadequate if they don’t enjoying adventures and travels. I believe in giving people a shot, after all, I do need someone to give me a chance at times too!
SIDE NOTE: I this it is a stereotype that one can’t be fabulously fashionable and also enjoys getting dirty, traveling, seeking adventures or is “geeky”. I certainly love both, you will definitely catch me at a museum on a week day, the library or watching a social-awareness documentary of sort as much as curling my hair, checking for the latest lipstick trend and looking glamorous!
I hope you enjoyed this segment of “Opinions & thoughts”
Try to love and embrace ” The search”. Learning and trying to understand who we are and what we really want isn’t going any where. Find peace in not knowing, in not understanding.
Don’t feel lesser or lost because you simply don’t know. It’s okay, most people do not know, some think they know, others pretend and a few actually know. It’ll be fine, there is a plan, you will never miss it regardless of what you think. You were created for a purpose, it will come to pass.
Peace & LOVE